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Submitted by Tara Redfield on July 3, 2010 – 9:43 pmComments

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We are responsible for making our life what we want it to be.  It is our choice if we go to college, what city we live in, what friends we have, and what job we work at.  Sometimes we choose things thinking they are what we want, then come to find they’re not what we wanted at all.  For many young women it is a constant trial and error until we get what we truly want.

Some of us knew what we wanted from early on, others of us try and wait and try and wait.  Personally, I always knew that I wanted to be an actress.  It was a decision I made at five years old.  Even though it was my choice to pursue this career path, I can’t take all of the credit.  I believe there is a greater force, and if we let ourselves listen to it, it will take us where we need to go.  I had an intuition, acting just felt right to me and I never questioned that feeling or challenged it.  What did you want to be when you were five years old?  I’m sure you had an idea.  The first choice is usually the right one.


There is a difference between choosing what we think we should do and what we want to do.  It’s not always easy to go after only happiness.  Life gives us all kinds of responsibilities, we need to make money for survival, of course, and going with our gut won’t always lead to constant stability.  However,  doing what you want will probably be so fulfilling that you will be successful at it and make enough money.  Maybe you became a doctor and are quite satisfied in your profession because it was what you always wanted to be.  But, maybe you are a doctor because you thought that would be the best job for you, but you secretly wanted to be florist.


The successful cupcake shop, Crumbs, was started by a woman who gave up being a lawyer, because she always had a dream to open a bake shop.  She tried to fight it, but realized she wasn’t happy doing what she thought she should be doing and now that she’s doing what she wants to do, she is both happy and successful.


If we take a moment to really think about all of the things that we love to do, and realize we aren’t doing any of them, perhaps we haven’t been making the right choices.  The right choice for you, will always make you happy.  What’s best for us has already been whispered, but it’s our choice whether we listen or not.

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  • It's divine intervention that I read your post just now, because I'm currently engaged in such a battle with myself! My issue is that I want to be a stay at home mom, but there is an awkward pause when you tell people that you want to quit your job so you can stay at home. I believe in my decision, and I know the people who care about me support me, but I think it's interesting to note that society usually looks at this issue in terms of what career you want. When you want a LACK of a career (so that you can do something that is still meaningful and contributes to the future of society!) people judge you for that.
  • Cassi Harms
    I love this post Tara! I knew I wanted to be a photographer the moment I got my first Mickey Mouse camera (with disposable flashes!) at the age of eight, and have trusted the path I have taken to become a professional photographer since then. I truly believe life becomes more abundant when you follow your passion. I hope many who are on the verge of making the choice to follow their dreams read your post and find the courage to pursue it. Brava Lady!
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