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Facebook: “The Other Woman” of Today

Submitted by Zoe Turner on March 5, 2010 – 7:11 amComments

It’s almost 1:00AM  and I’m awake. Still.

I’ve been on Facebook for awhile now… and I’m sick of it. Literally, sick of it.

Mostly working. But then, I did, what I don’t usually do, I checked out my guy’s Facebook Wall.

One comment left by a chick, on his wall, kinda says it all, “Ummmmmm?”

Now, my visiting his wall was sparked because, boys, your web browser, doesn’t erase itself.

(Though I sometimes wish it did).

I wasn’t snooping. Honestly. I was in need of finding a previous site that I was on yesterday, but couldn’t remember the exact name of .

But there it is, a list that goes on and on, my guy must have been on for (at the very least) a good half hour,  just “Facebook-Shopping”.

Girls, I want to say that it’s pointless to get worked up about our significant others need to peruse the photo albums of multiple females, as it’s kinda, perfectly natural, but I know, it’s really not that easy to swallow.

I get it, I really do, no matter how great the sex is or how peaceful a relationship may be, by nature the human mind, is NOT wholly monogamous.

In my opinion, especially, when it comes to the minds of men.

And actually, research states that those who have sex, more often, also fantasize more often. (This goes for both men and women).

Talk about a romantic/sexual CATCH 22!

Problem is, now we Facebook, which enables and stimulates for hours on end.

I wouldn’t go as far as to say it’s cheating, however, I will say that it probably has the same emotional effect on the person, who ISN’T spending that kind of time with “the other woman”.

People question the future of technology, but my question is, what is the future of sexuality, for men and woman?

(Quite frankly, it doesn’t make me want to sleep with my boyfriend after scrolling through a list of other woman’s names. No matter how “innocent” those names may be! So now, dammit, Facebook is effing with my “sexuality” which isn’t cool, at all).

What is a “healthy” relationship going to look like, when the dust settles from this “Twitter-Storm-Facebook-Frenzy?”

When everything is right there, conversations and fantasies waiting to be had with just the click “confirming” a friend, how does one maintain a healthy relationship, with the person who ISN’T staring at you via an old photograph on a computer screen?

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  • i was reading some article lately that that the 2 am google searches of high school gfs by 35 year olds are wrecking marriages everywhere
  • Caroline
    great post.

    i know...on one hand it's so innocuous because the online world suggests the ABSENCE of physical intimacy...but yeah, it fans the flames of our curiosity and that's never a GOOD thing for your boyfriend in the next room...
  • livogel
    agree with the not wholly monogamous mind point--and what's more harmelss than a little virtual shopping? but you could say the same thing about when they check out other girls...it's always about boundaries and potentially the online element makes those blurrier in the worst way
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