Don’t be a Gossip Girl
Picture this. You see two women talking. One with her hand on her hip practically snarling, the other with a head tilt and daggers in her eyes.
Sounds scary right? Well it is!
But it is also all too often the position (literally) we find ourselves in, especially when the conversation turns ugly about another person. Harmful words, tension and catabolic energy surround this type of situation, leaving the people involved, including the subject, feeling drained and dirty.
“Gossip needn’t be false to be evil- there’s a lot of truth that shouldn’t be passed around”- Frank A Clark
Whether it’s your interpretation, assumption or opinion of another, if it’s not kind, it’s not worth speaking.
To best explain how hurtful gossip is to the body, mind and soul, its helpful to look at the reverse situation.
Two women talking, smiling and laughing. Both appear open and light with bold hand gestures. They look inviting and happy as they share stories about their boyfriend, the great restaurant they just are at, the new Rhianna song, their awesome work out at the gym, or how much they both loveeee so & so.
When a conversation turns negative I would estimate a 60% chance (and I’m being gracious) that it involves talking badly about another person. This really limits the conversation. Therefore by eliminating gossip from your conversations you open up more than half of what you say to the possibility of speaking with love.
Just the difference in body language alone should provide for some motivation to stop gossiping. Without even mentioning how fantastic positive convo’s make us feel.
Negative conversations are nothing more then a bad habit. One of the best ways to stop a bad habit is to replace it with a new one.
So pay attention to your topic, watch your words and speak with love.