Bros before Hos.
The saying ‘bros before hos’ has always irked me. For me this calls to mind two douchey dudes fist pounding each other while a tramp slinks sadly away. As my life experience ripens, however, I would like to recognize the wisdom of ‘bros before hos.’
I think part of the reason I harbored distaste for so long was my jealousy of the male’s ability to honor this saying. It seems so simple for guys to embrace apathy; to them ass is just ass while a friend is for life. Women are a different story. Even the most emotionally balanced female will feel some tug at her pride when a friend begins seeing an ex. No matter the level of intimacy, the time elapsed since breakup, or the current relationship status, most women will allow a man to interfere with a friendship. The jealousy may not present itself in shirt-ripping, hair-pulling, full-on-catfight status, but the emotions are still real and consuming.
Thus my behest: ladies, learn from these boys. If you are done with him, be done. If you are seeing a bff’s ex, please talk to her about it like an adult. While a chest bump and shotgunning a beer may not heal all wounds, remember that no man is worth losing a friendship over. Even if he ends up being your soul mate, you can’t have a wedding without your maid of honor.
Take a deep breath, embrace your inner dude, and chant with me: “chicks before dicks.”